Children have a way of messing with your mind and if before kids you were calm, in control, neat kind of person and now your house is a mess you are always tidying and cleaning up, you feel tired and angry mostly and your life seems out of control and things are not going as you planned.
Trust me this is normal and you are not alone. Parenting is hard
It can be really difficult to manage the emotions that parenthood brings. Every day is a challenge and it can be overwhelming but we as moms have to find a reason for our anger and manage it because constantly yelling and getting angry at our kids is not healthy for us and for our kids.
Following are a few reasons why we find ourselves getting mad at our kids.
¥ If you do not get enough sleep you are a tired mom and thus have a short fuse.
¥ Your child doesn’t listen to your instructions.
¥ They are disobedient and disrespectful to you and their siblings.
¥ The nagging, whining, and tattling.
What you can do When you get mad at your kids…
- Calculate the frequency.
How often do you find yourself angry at your kids? Is it every so often when they act up, spill your Coke, or run away from you? If so, that is normal. But if you are continuously mad at your child irrespective of their behavior or moods, then there is likely an underlying issue.
- Evaluate your triggers.
Do you lose your calm and get angry because your children don’t listen to you or follow your lead? If so, try some new tactics with your kids. Possibly it’s no TV, no books, or no games. Think about some logical consequences to their regular mischiefs, and take a few weeks to be very constant with your responses. During that time praise their efforts as well. Even if this doesn’t resolve your anger, it’ll definitely mend their behavior.
- Get away.
Whether that is a morning with friends or even a day for yourself, if you are constantly wanting to get away from your children that is a sign you should probably do so. And I am not talking about the self-centered need to be away, but a genuine need for some time of refreshing.
- Take a minute.
It is one thing to yell a time or two at your kids, may be in the minority. Kids know when they are pushing the boundaries. However, if you find that you are always right on the edge then teach your kids how to “give you a minute.” Basically, you teach your children that when you tell “give me a minute” you are going to be alone and they need to leave you alone. When you are about to burst in anger, go take a minute.